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Him!

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 Love is,  bursting your favourite crackers (paambu mathrai) found in your 'not-so-little' little brother's cracker box and finally lighting it up with much struggle;  as you enjoy the tablets burn,  he-as a joke- pours water that puts off the flame, which in turn triggered the childish sense in you and you start fighting him for the same absurd irrational reason, although it didn't seem like a big deal, for some reason it upset you so bad, which in turn upset him although he doesn't show it- typical brothers 🤷,  So he takes an umbrella in the drenching rain with his pocket money- which he wouldn't share even under dying circumstances might I add- walks two streets and comes home after half-an-hour with double the amount of the same crackers that upset you;  It doesn't stop there, despite knowing that you are angry he doesn't give up until literally pulling you out of the bed to burst it;  You go out and his cycle stands in the place where you were burs

... meant and not said, most love is lost.

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"You gotta talk it out" "Communication is key" I know blah.. blah Those are things that are easier said than done. But since people keep saying it, shouldn't there be some truth to it though? According to a recent study, 67.5% divorces primarily occur due to poor communication. What's the point of being in love with someone if you don't tell them? People are not mind readers. They need to hear it. Humans need reassurance. "Between what is said and not meant, and meant but not said, most love is lost"                                                                                                                   - Khalil Gibran   Showing your love for your parents in WhatsApp and Instagram does not make them feel loved. SAY IT! SHOW IT IN ACTION!! Tell your friends how much they mean to you. Let your family know you appreciate their presence. Express yourself to your partner.  It can definitely be scary. If not in words, write them a letter.

A hearty tribute to the selfless souls.

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 Non-governmental organisation (NGO)   is a voluntary group or institution with a social mission, which operates independently from the government. The issues addressed by NGOs run the gamut of human concerns (e.g., human rights,  environmental protection, disaster relief, and development assistance), and the scope of their activities may be local, national, or international.  Each year World NGO day is celebrated on February 27th. "The universal concept of the World NGO Day is to Celebrate, Commemorate and Collaborate - the various NGOs around the world and the people behind them that contribute to society all year around." Being a social worker is no joke. You never know what kind of situations, rescues and people one might have to encounter. It is even fair to say that they are risking their lives to an extent for the wellness of others. Of course like any other good thing, NGOs and social workers are not given the credit that they deserve. This is your sign to acknowledge

Leave Quietly

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Leave quietly. Don't make a fuss. Don't waste your energy on something or someone that does not appreciate it.  Yes, it is difficult but what's the point if they don't hear you? Yes, it crushes you knowing that every ounce of effort you put in was for nothing. But, listen carefully darling, Not everyone is meant to understand your worth. But that does not make you any less valuable. A monkey can hold a book but can't make head or tail out of it. That does not mean that it is a bad book but it's just in the wrong hands.                                                 Silence is the best revenge. Establish yourself. So that you will be everywhere they see but nowhere to be found. That is how you comeback- stronger than a 90's trend.

Wabi-Sabi

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  Wabi-Sabi , a Japanese concept, highlights the beauty found in the fleeting, changeable and the imperfect nature of our surroundings. This concept insists on searching for beauty in things that are flawed and incomplete and not perfect. Wabi-Sabi extends to the idea of Kintsugi, which is a Japanese art of mending broken pottery with gold. The Imperfection is what makes it more perfect and adds to it value.  "Only things that are imperfect, incomplete and ephemeral can truly be beautiful, because only those things resemble the natural world."                                                              - Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life                                                          Imperfections paves way for development, be it of any kind. There is nothing to change without being at fault. One gets stuck in the same state if they become to think that everything about them is perfect. There's always room for Growth but only if one is brave

Better late than ever!

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 Do you have a guitar in your room that you bought out of sheer enthusiasm but never actually learnt to play it?  Boom!!! Years passed and it is still there collecting dust.  Now you think it is too late to learn.  No. It's not! You can still become the Jimi Hendrix of your age. You come home after a long day, tired and exhausted. Your battery is totally down but you have a blog to update. You still got time before the day ends. Do it! It's totally fine if it isn't your best work. All that matters is that you did it. Making an attempt at doing something even if it is late, is better than not trying at all.  Do it while you still can. No point in later regrets. 

Appearances can be deceptive.

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The fire looks beautiful but that doesn't mean it won't burn you to ashes. Just because something looks pretty doesn't mean it is good for you. The straw looks bent when put in water but in reality it isn't. Circumstances might make people look crooked when in reality they are not. Someone who cracks joke and makes people around laugh, might not always be the happiest person in the world.  You never know what someone is going through. Just because a person is a wallflower doesn't mean they do not have potential. The waves always recede before a tsunami. The apple is red not because it is actually red in colour but it is the only colour that it does not absorb.  It is the reflected colour that reaches our eyes and we 'think' it is red. Everything around is an illusion. Especially in the world that is being overtaken by AI, it is almost impossible to separate real life from the virtual. It is always safer to take everything with a pinch of salt because  APPEAR

You are your main character!

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 Why do you always save 'that' dress for a special occasion? Wear it. You are the main character in your story every single day, and not just on your birthday. Why do you need someone to say that you are beautiful? Look into the mirror. Can't you see it yourself?! Why did you stop dancing in the rain? Why did you stop climbing the monkey bar? Why did you stop jumping on the tetra pack on the street that makes the "Bop!" sound? Why did you put your inner child to sleep? Because someone told you to act like an adult? Afraid of what others might think? Screw them. Don't let other's pointless opinions decide your happiness. They miss their innocence and can't stand to see anyone still in possession of it. The world of adulting is in desperate need of the inner child that they lost somewhere in their early 20's. People are gonna judge no matter what you do. People are definitely gonna shove you with their opinions that they could not pursue. Just turn a

Just keep swimming...

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 "Just keep swimming... Just keep swimming..." You are right. You have probably heard Dory singing it before. For reference, Dory is the cute blue tang in the film Finding Nemo and  Finding Dory, that   suffers with short term memory loss (we're talking 'only-a-few-seconds' short here.) This line is Dory's mantra throughout her journey in the film.  Not one instance in the story did Dory play the victim. She is always the happiest fish and also never fails to cheer up everyone around. She did not let her past define her. She always lives in the moment (literally lol) Dwelling in the past never did anyone any good. All it does is hinder your growth and create false hopes on things that you know for a fact is not gonna happen. Despite getting lost for a million times, Dory found her home in the end. All she did was, JUST KEEP SWIMMING... The takeaway from Dory is that no matter how big of the biggest waves life rises at you; no matter how many fish-eating monst

How "removed" from reality are we?

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 The "removed form reality" is an intriguing concept that was put forward by the philosopher Plato. Though he might have given it in the concept of art and poetry, let us give it a current day touchup. First, think about how much we live in the present and try to answer these questions. Do we savour the good things in the moment or follow our first instinct, i.e. to take out the mobile phones and capture it? When you come across a street brawl, is your first instinct to find out what was wrong to help or make it a content for social media? When you come across an accident (God forbid), do you run to help or run with your mobiles to vlog the help and the scene? It has even gone to an extent where, some people have even started recording while crying and being upset, to showcase it to the whole world. What have we become?  CAN'T WE EVEN JUST BE UPSET WHILE BEING UPSET? How much have we drowned our ability to just be humans?  Have we become so insensible to emotions?  Are we

What makes you You?

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Somedays you paint vivid pictures. Somedays you can't even pick a color to begin with. Somedays you work out for hours. Somedays you get nailed to the bed. Somedays you read pages together. Somedays you can't get your brain to decipher one sentence. Somedays you get a million ideas for your blog. Somedays you have no clue what to say. Somedays you wanna be the best version of yourself. Somedays you just don't care. It's important to understand the extremities of life and that it's all part of the picture. Every time you hit rock bottom take it as a sign to come back up stronger! And how you find your way is what makes you 'You.'

Waves of Missing (Series-1)

 Crazy how memory works,  The gentle breeze from a random neem tree caressing your face, can remind you of the evenings that you spent in your grandmother's house- Cousins meeting up after a long time, Playing and rolling on the floor laughing,  Tired, exhausted, Getting scolding from our moms to freshen up from the sweat and mud. At last, you all settle down. Sitting around in a circle,  Waiting for the evening snacks made at home by your grandmother. KFC?  McDonald's? Ahh.. Never mind That snacks under the tree was the BEST!

The Feedback Loop from Hell.

 Mark Manson, in his New York Times Best seller book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck gives a concept called "The Feedback Loop from Hell."  This basically means that feeling an emotion over feeling the said emotion intensely for feeling it in the first place. Let's break it down. Say you feel sad about something that you want to get over, now you feel sad for feeling sad and feel sad again for not being able to get over it.  Say you are a person with temper issues and you lose your temper. Now you are angry with yourself for getting angry and, again you lose your temper over the fact that you make yourself look like a mean person.   And the cycle goes on... Manson says that today's social media culture has given birth to a belief that feeling these negative emotions is not okay, which is not true. "The Feedback loop from Hell has become a borderline epidemic, making many of us overly stressed, overly neurotic and self-loathing"                          

A little better than yesterday.

 "What is Progress?" Definitely not easy to answer as it sounds, is it? Some might say it is improving and scoring good marks  Some might say it is achieving a higher position at work. Some might say it is growth in general.  While they are all correct, I think Progress is getting 'a little better than yesterday' no matter how little. If you want to start waking up early and if you could wake up five minutes earlier than the previous day- it's a progress If you want to start eating healthy and try to eat one less samosa than the previous day- it's a progress If you plan on writing a book and start by writing one page per day- progress If you aim to clear an exam and you start by studying ten minutes everyday- Yes! It's still making progress. If you want to lose weight and you eat one less sweet than the previous day- Yeah, progress. If you want to gain weight and eat a little more protein than the previous day- Yes! Progress! Progress!! Progress!!!  There